Updated: Aug 17, 2021
"The truth doesn't matter, it only matters what the people believe"- Red Queen
Everyone has an opinion, even if they don't say it out loud. Through experience we must know that they could get us in trouble sometimes. So which fights should we pick? How can we 'win' a fight? how can you emerge as the bigger person through one?
When presented with a situation one can either argue, accept or go with the flow. However rebelling never helps and only increases trouble, often ruining impressions. Support too can be looked down on if given in a controversial situation. Indifference and acceptance, however, are only not good in emotional topics. In my opinion I believe that in the exact scenario of an argument or fight, it's important to feign indifference even if you hold a strong opinion within it. Staying indifferent can be portrayed by calmly responding, not replying to every statement and keeping the tone of your voice subtle. It shows that you simply aren't bothered enough to make the effort to become angry. In the eyes of a third person you would automatically be the bigger person for not engaging in the argument. Acceptance is similar to indifference but also quite different. In indifference, you hold your stand while not engaging in debate, however in acceptance you let go of your stance and take in the other. Obviously that too isn't popular, a good example would be a king accepting his loss and deciding not to fight. The ministers and army would be mad at the king for not fighting back and defending his country. However there is no point fighting a losing battle, lives will only be lost in vain, it's better to go out without any unnecessary fight. Thus acceptance too can be a good stance in certain situations. The most common reaction in an argument is holding a defensive stand. I made note of a lot of arguments I was part of, and realised that whether it was my mom, dad, sister or friend, they all started defending themselves before I even blamed them. Moreover they would move on to make a point which puts me in bad light. That's where you have to be indifferent or depending on the situation, accept it. However though these two reactions are good in a lot of scenarios, they obviously don't fit every one. For example, if you were being bullied or framed, argument is important. Indifference also plays a key role in this. If a child who has always been quiet in arguments or just apologised in one reacts differently by arguing, then it would be considered rare and also true, for it is uncommon. It is not the kid's nature and the kid was forced to react that way. Thus it is important to realise which battle is important enough to be won by force and which one by strategy.
Many a times there will be unnecessary,illogical arguments, it is best not to engage in them. I believe that arguments not only affect the parties involved, but also the third parties. Thus how one reacts is important. 'Because the truth doesn't matter, it only matters what the people believe' and that, can be very harmful.